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Thank You for Undeserved Chances

This Sunday I’m headed back to my home church to preach.

I preached my first sermon there and several more in high school and college.

Over at the Movement Church blog I share some of the reasons why they shouldn’t ask me back, with plenty of links to old posts here. In doing so I realize that I have a lot of people to thank for those undeserved chances.

Knowing what I know now and realizing what it means to open up your pulpit/stage/platform to an arrogant teenager/college student is a risk I would balk at.

But they did so I want to say thank you and I want to encourage you to think about those that you need to thank in your life.

So thank you:

Mike Crosley

Shawn Case

Ellen Sheets

Mike Killebrew

Vickie Nelson

Jim Clark

And so many others that weren’t gatekeepers but were encouragers and supporters.

Moore, Oklahoma

The damage in Moore, OK and elsewhere is overwhelming. As it was in Joplin, Bangladesh, Port-au-Prince, and countless others places that experienced tragedy on such a massive scale.

Encouraged that the death toll was reduced and that so many were pulled from rubble. Such encouragement doesn’t do much for those grieving.

The time lapsed helicopter footage:

How you can help the victims and prepare to help in the future.

The Unemployed Pastor: Get Over Yourself

You can read the entire series here.

Here’s the truth, being unemployed is depressing.

Never will it be harder to efficiently use so much free time.

Never will it be harder to stay positive and not descend into apathy, depression, etc.

But you have to Get Over Yourself. 

For me I can pinpoint an exact moment when it happened for me. I was reading about missionaries from the 17th, 18th, and 19th centuries that would literally pack their possessions as they traveled to Africa, China and elsewhere in the coffins they planned to bury themselves in. The chances of premature death was so strong that did without traditional luggage.

The missionaries left their homes with a certainty that they wouldn’t return.

I think I can handle living with my parents for a few months, selling a vehicle, and asking for help.

You and I aren’t our jobs at churches. We aren’t our titles. Worth does not come by comparing ourselves to those we went to school with.

We all know this, unemployment makes us come face to face with the truth.

Dallas Willard 1935-2013

Just the other day I recommended The Divine Conspiracy to a former student.

The Unemployed Pastor: Starbucks Pastor

You can read the entire series here.

Well of course this is where I ended up. And you can make all the fun you want, but I really was more productive at Starbucks or at coffee shop than anywhere else.

See I need(ed) a routine.

If I were to wake up in the morning without a plan, I’m not going to be productive. So even if I didn’t have anything pressing to do when I sat down with a tall coffee (I’m on a budget) it was helpful for me to get out and get to work.

It also begins to connect you with people outside of the church bubble.

Now sure you still have to talk to them, but a little community forms among the coffee shop workers. We’ll watch your stuff while you take a call outside or run to the bathroom and we will open up an outlet if our battery’s full; it is this weird work space community that forms.

Seeing as how I often have a Bible or church book out on the table conversations are started that I probably wouldn’t otherwise have with these strangers.

It’s also a place with some built in accountability. When someone can see your screen do you really want them to see you spending hours on Facebook?

So if you are an unemployed pastor, don’t let that stop you from going to work and finding people to minister to.

The Unemployed Pastor: Church Detox

You can follow along with the entire series here.

Church is a funny thing, and pastors even odder.

We all know that we shouldn’t make following Jesus about an hour on Sunday, event, or program; but we aren’t exactly sure how else to do it.

Well maybe we do know how to do it, it is the execution that gets in the way.

Libraries of books have been written dissecting and trying to solve the issue of creating attenders and not disciples. And to be perfectly honest I don’t have a solid solution either.

So as I came out of a position and am moving into a new one I need(ed) to detox a bit.

Its an issue we all run into. Spend too much time in the bubble and you forget what life is like outside of the bubble. So like an addict you have to go through some detox.

You catch yourself in a moment of Saturday night panic as you forget that you aren’t preaching in the morning, hoping someone shows up to help, or that an element isn’t a total failure. Or Sunday morning you don’t know what to do with yourself. There is no Monday email avalanche to deal with.

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The Unemployed Pastor: What I Miss

You can follow the entire blog series here.

I miss spiritual leadership.

We were having our weekly Saturday conversation about where we were going to church the next morning and my wife asked me what I missed.

Heidy misses worshipping with other believers, particularly through music. I enjoy a good group sing as much as the next person but that isn’t the thing I miss the most. For her she feels incomplete without worship, I feel incomplete not leading people that I’m in relationship with.

I don’t miss preaching. I get to communicate in other ways.

I don’t miss preparing for events or services. Although Easter this year was weird.

I don’t miss serving with other leaders. This surprised me a bit.

I miss spiritual leadership.

The idea of being connected with someone, through a friendship or some sort of community environment and having the permission to speak into their lives. Maybe this is a cop out because this happens through preaching, but also in unplanned conversations, crisis moments, pastoral care, small groups, and intentional time together.

My advice to you would be to try and figure out what you would miss if you suddenly without the community you lead in.? What would be the thing or activity that gives you life?

Once you have an idea on this start figuring out how you can lean into that aspect more.

For me as I think and plan for the next chapter of ministry this isn’t about becoming the extrovert I’m not, but about building trust and speaking from experience and brokenness.

So if you were like me and suddenly unemployed, what would you miss?

The Unemployed Pastor

I’m unemployed.

For the second time in my life I quit a job without having a clear plan for what’s next lined up.

This time I know I will be starting and leading a new church, the timeline and location just changed. So don’t get me wrong I know thousands upon thousands have it worse than I do, but I’d be lying if I said the waiting wasn’t a challenge.

So all that to say I am not receiving a paycheck and I’m learning a lot about what to do in this time and what not to do. I’ve shared some thoughts on thinking about leaving and how to leave well. This is my attempt to cover how to practically survive an unexpected “sabbatical“.

  1. What I Miss
  2. Church Detox
  3. Starbucks Pastor
  4. Get Over Yourself
  5. Serve
  6. Good Habits
  7. Always Say Yes
  8. Keep a Routine
  9. Borrow an Xbox
  10. Be Ready

As each post is published I’ll update them here with the appropriate link.

Feeling Sorry for Pastors

Heard a story about an incredible church that made some bold facility moves and a few weeks after opening this new space they nearly tripled in size.

This is the story you hear at conferences, or in books, or blog posts. Usually followed by the process they took to get there.

There were definitely stages of my life when I would have been completely amazed and wanted to know the “secret sauce” of their process. And while “Wow!” was my first thought I quickly felt sorry for their staff.

  • Chances are all these new people aren’t giving or serving in a way to keep up with the new needs. 
  • They probably can’t go out and hire the additional staff they need. Churches are usually slow with HR and the giving issue above.
  • In their community they have undergone a huge image shift. Positives and negatives abound when this happens.
  • Spiritual warfare has to be rampant on staff and leaders.
  • Now other churches are looking to them for answers and all the pressure that entails.

Obviously the stories of life change and people coming to faith is huge, but this strain will eventually take a toll on the paid staff. The leadership challenges they faced before this have been replaced by newer and more complex ones.

As a very young Rookie Pastors I marveled (and maybe idolized) at size, but the reality is that we don’t understand what the costs have been to get there.

If a leader has been there through consistent long term growth they have had to navigate numerous big changes and see friends leave as these changes played out. Or if it was an “overnight” success you have the issues above and have to build the plane while you fly it.

Coming in from the outside to a large church probably has just as many challenges as you try to earn trust to lead forward and understand the myriad of dynamics.

It isn’t that I don’t want to see as many people as possible come to faith, I do, but I think I have a bit of a better understanding for the challenges these pastors face.

So two things I want to challenge you to do:

  1. Pray for the big church. There is probably a larger church in your area you either look up to or are cynical towards. Pray for them and their staff. 
  2. Share in the comments your initial reactions when you hear of a church that experiences incredible growth.

Tell A Story

Without the commentary you have a funny video.

With it you have a viral video.

Pastors have a unique challenge and opportunity today. Everything I read and experience tells me that people appreciate stories with meaning more than something with raw empirical truth.

So if you were like me and read Josh McDowell 15 years ago you may have realized that particular brand of apologetics isn’t as effective as it used to be. (although was it ever?)

Pastors and other leaders within and without the local church have an opportunity to tell great stories of meaning. Namely those of Scripture and the life change that results in following Jesus.

Everyone’s personal story is more or less how they perceive the world depending on how postmodern they are. In turn it is the job of communicators and leaders in the church to tell stories that invite the personal narratives into the grander narrative. We have to put words, music, images, and media to what we witness.

We have to narrate Kung Fu Grandpa. We have to be interpreters of life.

So go tell a story in a way that gets people’s attention.

And always enjoy viral videos.

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