This is part 9 of a blog series called Leading a Small Group.
Never go it alone.
When I go it alone I talk to too much and the group discussion turns into a monologue, and before you know it you have an awkward group on your hands.
As a leader I have to be careful not to just do everything on my own. It is my issues of poor time management, lack of trust, etc. Or maybe for you you aren’t comfortable asking someone to step into a leadership role. Whatever it is you need to get over it.
Your spouse or significant other could be a great option. My wife complements me well in ministry situations and I expect her to balance me. This means she will interpret my gibberish, take the hard edge off something I said, and give me helpful feedback after the fact.
Going with your spouse poses problems if you aren’t comfortable leading in that way together, don’t force it. The Pastor’s spouse stereotypes of doing all the behind the scenes stuff and never being heard from could be deconstructed at length elsewhere, but the bottom line is that if they aren’t gifted and equipped to do something don’t force an expectation on them.
Even if your spouse wants to lead in the group it is wise to have someone else in the group as a leading partner. In terms of leadership development the easiest first step you can take is to give a prospect the opportunity to speak into your leadership process. Allow them to give you feedback.
This produces some ownership and a more active group participant. From there start getting their input on the curriculum before group, but that’s a topic for a later installment.
The point is that if you leading alone you aren’t really leading and you are setting your group up for difficulty.